How to Get Over an Ex-Boyfriend

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Some women have a knack for bouncing back from a bad breakup. It seems they give themselves a day or two to mourn the loss of the relationship before hitting the dating scene with gusto. Emm, why am I mourning more than TWO BLOODY DAYS now??? Then they never look back. Their motto: Nothing helps you get over the last guy like the next guy. Ok, so who wants to be the experimental guy? Raise your hands!

Unfortunately, many women can't shake a lost love because they're unwilling to accept that the relationship is over. They replay old conversations in their heads. Erm. They obsess over what they should have done to avoid the breakup. Naaahh, I'm not doing this! They arrange to bump into the guy and convince him he's made a mistake. So, I wanted to give the birthday present. That's nothing, rite? They fantasize about him constantly. They believe that he's "the one," and that the relationship was "meant to be." I think of what's best for me, and that's a NO. They fear that if they let go emotionally, they would have thrown away their shot at true love. He was, and he still is...maybe tomorrow I'll get over it ok? Hehe.

She must make a decision to get over him, and then she needs the discipline to carry it out. She must throw out every material item that reminds her of him. Er, xkan nk buang Kokobe and Bonggo? I love them. Their like my lil babies (only lifeless). And the ring, erm, I just can't... She cannot afford to entertain a single pleasant thought about the relationship. Darn it! Instead, it helps to write a list of the things he did that drove her crazy (the way he kept sniffling instead of reaching for a tissue, for example, or his habit of using unnecessarily big words) and refer to it often. If a friend brings up his name, it's imperative that she change the subject. By all means, she should avoid speaking of him at all. This, I must try...*gulp*

Certain smells (his cologne, or the fragrance of a special food she enjoyed with him) and sounds, particularly music, will bring him back into her head at the most inopportune times. Her best bet is not to remove herself from the triggers, but to immerse herself in them until they no longer remind her of him. Erm, mane nk cari perfume Guess For Men skang...aihh.. I love that scent...

A woman can get over a lost love, but only if she's willing. She must consciously block him from her heart and mind. It's not easy at first, but it does get easier. Once she evicts the guy for good, she can move on to the passion and happiness she deserves.

Wish me luck..